Dear mom,
I hope you feel better today
I love you
Do you encourage your kids to write their feelings? I find that it is a good way not only for younger kids to practice their pencil grip, but to express and share with you what they are feeling.
I can’t remember exactly now how it all started, but my son started writing us ‘letters’ from since he can grip a pencil. First it was just scribbles and chicken scratches; then he added his name to his drawings in mirror image. It progressed to “I love you’s”; then on to the now two to three liners. Our home is riddled with his letters written on the back of scrap papers, post it notes, homemade cards, etc. There is currently a sticky note by the light switch in his dad’s study which says –
Dear Dad,
I love you.
Don’t forget to switch off the light
At times when I was cross with him he would wrote me a note and placed it on my bed which says –
Dear mom,
I am sorry I made you upset today.
I love you.
I find that it was a wonderful way of acknowledging not only his feelings but mine too, and know that his actions had affected me and that he openly acknowledged it. I, in turn, would scribbled something below his note.
Down the hallway, on the pin board, my son wrote on scrap paper which he had initially folded and given to his dad as a secret message –
I love this family.
Dad pass this on the mom after reading this.
There are many other life skills developed out of this practice. But, I thought and I hope, that by encouraging this act of letter writing, my son when he grows into that stage in his life where emotions are more complex and stress levels are starting to build, that he would be able to sit and write down his emotions and thoughts and either share them with me or anyone he desires to or just merely as an expression of relief.
I once said to my son, “you know, if you don’t feel like talking to me, you can write me a note”. And write he did.
I wonder, do you practice the same in your household? ♥